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Comment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.
Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished!
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Professional wrestler Anthony Bowens came out as bisexual last year in a video alongside YouTuber boyfriend Michael Pavano.
The couple have remained together ever since and in a new YouTube video, the couple took some time to answer questions from fans, including how they met, and it wasn’t easy.
“I was in the closet at the time and I was scanning through Instagram when I came across his profile,” Bowens explains.
He then struggled over messaging Pavano before finally deciding to do it, sending him a direct message and discovering that Pavano was in an on-off relationship with someone else.
Pavano explains: “It was the last break that we took before we made it official that it was over. And that’s when I met [Bowens] and was instantly attracted to him. I was just like ‘wow’.”
“I even told my ex at the time that I was so attracted to him as soon as we got back together after that break.”
However, it seems Pavano’s then-boyfriend didn’t like that, as he sent Bowens a message saying: “I would really like it if you didn’t message him anymore.”
This led the wrestler to deleting both Michael and his boyfriend, and he didn’t hear from Pavano for another three months until he sent a friend request.
After chatting once again and meeting Pavano a day before his birthday at a bar, the pair “instantly clicked.” After a second date to the beach, the two realised they had a lot more in common than they thought.
“That day I knew this is the guy that I can see myself with. He is so spontaneous, he’s so fun, he’s up for anything.”
You can watch the adorable video below:
A Bad Moms Christmas is coming out later this year and we can’t wait.
The first film, which starred Mila Kunis, went on to become a huge success and the box office, and by the looks of the trailer the sequel looks set to do the same.
We’ll be making sure to keep an eye out for actor Justin Hartley, who plays a Christmas stripper in the upcoming comedy flick.
Honestly, our dream job. We love the festive season, and we love being shameless. Where do we sign up?
Watch the X-rated trailer below:
Bad Moms is released in the UK this November.
First, I had an appointment at the car workshop in the morning. They needed me to be there while they made some adjustments, so I've seen the new car again, too. This time with the lift and special floor installed, so this time I was even allowed to sit in it. Let's just say it's still an absolute dream. I just wish that my driving skills matched the feeling of being in the car... actually driving still scares me, though. But okay, old news and all that, and this is supposed to be an excitement post, so...
... they also said that the car might be ready in 3-4 weeks' time, depending on when the traffic authorities decide to approve the adjustments. Yes, there is apparently a separate procedure of approval for this.
On a different note, we also did something nice after finishing the car stuff: We bought a new TV. We've had a lot of issues with our old one, so this is something we've been discussing and thinking of doing for a long time already. At the same time, we're also going to change our TV and net provider (back to the company we used to be with before), so I'm excited about that... and a little nervous, because it will mean a bit of stress with having people over, and probably also a bit of stress before everything is set up to work the way it should.
Should work better than our current setup, anyway. Slow net and flawed TV picture (with a lot of short sound/picture failures if you try to watch anything) has been the order of the day for way too long, now.
Finally... this also means one more thing: We will not have a landline phone anymore after this switch.
I'll be honest and admit that it has been hard for me to accept that this is a sensible decision. Of course it's true that I hardly ever use the landline phone, and I haven't been using it for a good few years. The only people who call on it are telemarketers and - until recently - mom's friend who kept living with the misconception that calling someone on their mobile phone is ridiculously expensive, so better use the landline if you can. Even that friend has now cancelled her landline phone subscription, though...
... so why has it been hard for me to get rid of it? Simply because the landline phone number we have has been the same for practically all of my life. That phone number is us, in some way. It's ours, and getting rid of it feels a bit like getting rid of some part of myself; some part of my own history. Does that even make sense?
Now I just need to hear from the TV/net installation folks, so that I know when they're coming by to set things up.
Soon, preferably. Because this should be exciting!
A man has been accused of deliberately infecting sexual partners with HIV by tampering with condoms.
Daryll Rowe, who is currently in custody in Scotland, previously worked as a hairdresser and was initially accused of infecting two partners in Brighton between 2015 and 2017.
However, several other men have come forward accusing Rowe of the crime, raising the number to 10. A judge has granted the alleged victims lifetime anonymity.
The allegations come after police urged Rowe’s sexual partners to come forward and get tested for HIV.
The 26-year-old has denied the allegations and the charges of grievous bodily harm and attempted grievous bodily harm, which can be punishable with up to life imprisonment.
Rowe was arrested in Brighton last year, but failed to answer bail last November. Police launched a nationwide hunt which eventually led to his arrest in Wallsend, North Tyneside as his mother urged Rowe to turn himself in.
Rowe will be moved to Lewes to stand trial in October.
Everyone loves Snow White, but our favourites were always the Seven Dwarfs.
There’s been countless cartoon takes on how Disney characters like Aladdin and Robin Hood may have looked when reimangined as gorgeous guys, but we’ve never seen anyone do it with the dwarfs – until now.
Artist Silverjoy has shared his take on the dwarfs as hunky daddies, and we’re never going to be able to see the film in the same light again.
Come on Disney, get on a live-action version of Snow White with these guys instead please.
Take a look below:
Into it, tbh.
As we explore the stigma that still faces gay men living with Hepatitis C in our new October issue, LGBT+ activist and Stonewall Role Model Philip C Baldwin opens up about his experience of living with the disease…
2010 was a turbulent year for me. I had been diagnosed with both HIV and Hep C at the beginning of that year. I experienced fear, shame, denial and resentment. The anxiety of my diagnoses left me feeling like I wanted to vomit. Coming to terms with being co-infected with HIV and Hep C was difficult. This was made harder by the stigma and lack of awareness around Hep C that I found amongst gay men.
The stigma of Hep C is much worse within the gay community than that of HIV. HIV stigma in the UK does remain very real. According to the findings of the Stigma Index’s 2015 report, one in five HIV positive people in the UK has considered suicide in the last year. I did experience stigma from other gay men on account of my HIV, but my Hep C left me feeling isolated in a way that my HIV didn’t.
Gay men are far more informed about HIV than Hep C. Telling gay men that I was HIV positive was comparatively straightforward. Discussing my Hep C left me feeling vulnerable. I was afraid of rejection from other gay men, particularly around my Hep C. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to have long-term relationships. I thought that other gay men would no longer perceive me as sexually desirable.
I went from being an out and proud gay man to feeling ashamed and insecure. Following my diagnoses, I was worried that HIV negative gay men would not want to date me on account of my HIV and I was worried that HIV positive gay men would not want to date me on account of my Hep C. I felt so alone.
I found it very hard, at first, to disclose my Hep C status. I was waiting to be treated for my Hep C and, although healthy, was dealing with a lot of uncertainty myself. I had to gain self acceptance around both my HIV and Hep C before I felt comfortable talking about being co-infected. One year after my diagnoses, an HIV positive friend confided in me that he had Hep C. I didn’t have the confidence to tell him that I was Hep C positive as well. I was paranoid that other gay men would gossip about my Hep C. I thought that they would say that I was dirty or a slut. I had heard HIV-positive gay men talking about gay men with Hep C in this way. I was confused. I felt awkward. I didn’t know what to do.
Once I had the courage to talk openly about my Hep C, I had mixed responses from gay men. No one ever rejected me sexually on account of my HIV, but my Hep C was problematic. I told one gay man that I was both HIV and Hep C positive, he rejected me and then, the following day, he sent me a text apologising and asking me out on a date. Some gay men congratulated me on being so open about my Hep C status.
I cleared my Hep C at the start of this year. What is wonderful is that since my diagnosis in 2010, there have been amazing advances in Hep C treatments. I did the new direct acting antiviral (DAA) treatment, which lasts three months, from December 2016 to early March 2017. The DAA treatment is effective and I found it to be side effect-free. I was surprised when my HIV and Hep C specialist offered me the treatment, as I had previously been told that access to the treatment was being restricted by the NHS. He explained that in some regions waiting lists had been cleared, allowing his London clinic to treat more people. I know some gay men who are still waiting for treatment, but the situation is improving.
I would encourage all gay men to test regularly for Hep C and, if you are currently living with Hep C, continue to raise the issue of treatment with your specialist. Hep C is now 100 % curable. We need to apply pressure to the NHS to ensure that everyone receives the new DAA drugs, but should also remember that this is the first blood-borne virus science has been able to cure.
This is a moment of great hope. We must shatter the stigma of Hep C and continue to raise awareness around Hep C, the new DAA treatments and HIV.
Follow Philip Christopher Baldwin on Twitter @philipcbaldwin.
Last night I shipped a thing to my mom. I recently found a stash of half used tiny toothpaste tubes, so I am using them up--how kids can brush their teeth with bubble gum toothpaste all the time is beyond me--and I'm sure I'll use up the watermelon toothpaste they are currently ignoring. I have finished off two tiny shampoo bottles and am working on a third, all from my travel bag. On to the last bottle of body wash I don't particularly like, but it's soap and I don't actually mind it. Always gathering outgrown kid clothes to send to a friend--and make room for the handmedowns coming from another friend soon!
I reactivated a seller's account on amazon to sell a book. It's not worth much but it might be worth the effort.
I've made a list of things to sell to the consignment store, whenever I can make it there. One is particularly sentimental but no longer useful so I am working through those feelings. A friend will pick up a large baby thing soon (I hope soon) and I cannot wait to regain space from it! She will also take the excess of handmedowns as her kids are right behind mine, size-wise.
Last week I gave away an instrument case that didn't fit my instrument well, and I replaced it with a case that fits much better. This is a great investment and it takes up less space than the previous case!
In my travels, I am happy to report that I purchased only the case, 5 CDs, a hoodie and a picture for the kids, a lawn decoration already in place, and a collectible mug. This sounds like a lot, but in past years, I've come home with 10 CDs, shirts, yarns, scarves, etc. Instead of buying a jacket for me, I got my favorite hoodie embroidered so it feels new.
I do not despair though, because I have my own thoughts as to how I can make a difference, and rather than rely on the formal structure, I'm minded to be more creative.
Watch this space...
A peaceful vigil to honour Scout’s life was held last night (September 18), but quickly turned violent.
The candlelit vigil started at 8 pm and saw students chant “Who’s tech? Scouts tech” as they marched towards Georgia Tech Police headquarters. The riots started just over an hour after the vigil began, at 9.30 pm.
Georgia Tech University issued an emergency alert, urging students to stay inside before rioters set a police SUV on fire.
According to University spokesperson Lance Wallace, two officers suffered minor injuries and one was taken to hospital for treatment over the riots.
— Justin Wilfon (@JustinWilfonWSB) September 19, 2017
Scout Schultz was shot by campus police on Saturday (September 16), who claimed the student was advancing on officers with knife.
According to an email by Georgia Bureau of Investigation spokeswoman Nelly Miles, Schultz had allegedly made the 911 call and described a suspicious person who fit their own physical description.
Miles also claimed that three suicide notes were found in Schultz’s dorm room.
According to the Associate Press, three people were arrested and charged with inciting a riot and battery of an officer, though it’s unknown if the three arrested are students at Georgia Tech.
In a statement released through their attorney, the Schultz family said: “Answering violence with violence is not the answer. Our goal is to work diligently to make positive change at Georgia Tech in an effort to ensure a safer campus for all students.”
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We’ve heard time and again that we need to practice safer sex in order to prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted infections. But while many of us know this, is it as simple as putting on a condom?
For gay men, the fear of HIV is very real. Thankfully, people living with HIV today are able to live happy and healthy lives, but as time has gone on, to what extent have safer sex practices evolved?
Of course, condoms are an extremely effective method of preventing us from passing on sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, to our sexual partners. That being said, many gay and bisexual men are not using condoms and I don’t blame them – they’re not exactly the sexiest things in the world, are they?
FS magazine carried out a survey recently that explored the idea of risk during sex. 65% of the gay and bisexual men surveyed reported that they had gone without their rubber friend when they had last had anal sex. Some said that this was due to the fact that their partner was undetectable or that they were taking PrEP.
Perhaps these results add to the argument that a condom-only option is simply not enough for gay and bisexual men in 2017. With this in mind, it seemed like a timely coincidence to see Do It London rolling out their latest wave of adverts.
In an attempt to educate Londoners about the many ways they can prevent HIV transmission, the London-wide HIV prevention programme brings to the forefront the latest scientific evidence on how we can all prevent HIV from being passed on. PrEP and being ‘undetectable’ now form part of the quartet of HIV prevention methods, alongside the more well-known methods of using condoms and getting tested. This allows for greater choice for gay and bisexual men when it comes to making decisions about their sexual health.
I think it’s important that Do It London have acknowledged ‘undetectable’ as a means of preventing HIV from being passed on. To date, it seems that it has been left to those living with HIV to educate others within the gay community about what it means to be undetectable, resulting in them at times facing a barrage of abusive language, particularly on dating and hook-up apps. Perhaps now that this campaign has brought this into a more ‘mainstream’ conversation, we will start to see a change in attitudes towards people living with HIV and a greater understanding of treatment for people living with the virus.
As gay and bisexual men, we are all too aware that we are disproportionately affected by HIV compared to other groups within society, so why is this campaign so important? One of the biggest barriers to effective HIV prevention is the notion that HIV is a taboo subject of conversation. If we’re afraid to broach the subject with our sexual partner, then how can we negotiate safer sex practices with them?
Equally, if we continue to demonise those living with HIV on dating and hook-up apps, we are pushing this topic further under the carpet, resulting in people feeling unable to discuss their HIV status with their sexual partners.
Do It London are bringing HIV back into conversation, whilst educating the general population about new developments in the fight against HIV. But let’s not forget, this campaign is London-focused and what seems like a logical step forward would be a similar nationwide campaign.
In the meantime, I’d invite you all to educate yourselves about these new developments, be it asking someone on social media who is living with HIV to visiting an HIV charity’s website. It is only then will we feel more empowered to have open conversation about HIV and negotiating safer sex with our partners.
So, if you have time this weekend and are in London. Come see my werewolf story that I've been threatening for years. In the form of a game, that I built with my own two hands and enough brackets to finally fill the desperate need in my heart. Coding is great if you have an unholy need for brackets.
I'll be around for some of Saturday, probably the afternoon. (Will firm up when under lock once I actually know). I have just remembered I'm terrified of crowds, so I'm trying to contribute heavily during the set-up phase.
If you're specifically looking for my work, it has my legal surname attached and will be in the code liberation section. Equally, black and bright neons are its calling card. Also, come see the cool things people I've been on the course with have made, because honestly, the work they've made is really cool.
A Texas man has become the third to plead guilty to targeting gay men via Grindr with an intention to assault and rob them.
Chancler Encalade was arrested with three others earlier this year and pleaded guilty yesterday (September 18) in Plano, Texas. Nigel Garrett, 21, and Cameron Ajiduah, 18, were the first two men to plead guilty to the crimes.
The group are being charged on 18 counts, which include assaulting their victims, robbing them of their possessions, binding them with tape and possessing a firearm.
In January and February this year, the group used gay dating app Grindr to connect with gay men throughout Texas and on four separate occasions, the men visited the homes of victims and committed the offences.
According to reports, the assailants made derogatory comments about the victim’s sexual orientation. The three men could be sentenced up to life in prison and fined up to $250,000 (Around 185,000).
A fourth man, 19-year-old Anthony Shelton, is currently awaiting trial.
Anti-gay marriage protesters in Australia are set to hold a demonstration in the heart of Sydney’s biggest gay district this weekend.
Members of the far-right Party for Freedom, usually campaigns against Muslim immigration, will hold a ‘Straight Lives Matter’ protest on Saturday in Darlinghurst, just metres from the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Holocaust Memorial.
Saturday’s event – named as play on the ‘Black Lives Matter’ movement – will be held in favour of “white heteronormativity” as Australians begin to cast their votes on a legally non-binding vote on the issue of marriage equality.
Defending the decision to hold the demonstration in an area of significant meaning for LGBT people, Party for Freedom chairman Nick Folkes told news.com.au: “We want to make a strong point — I don’t feel were provoking anyone, we can hold a rally anywhere.”
He reportedly added that ‘Vote Yes’ campaigners were free to hold demonstrations in ‘straight areas’.
The planned march comes just days after skywriting encouraging Australians to vote against marriage equality appeared over Sydney.
“In most cases it’s a lifestyle people choose. My neighbour has kids and he was straight but went gay,” Mr Folkes continued.
“All these 76 genders. I say there’s three genders: male, female and r*tards. The rest is lunacy The world’s being turned upside down.”
New South Wales Police confirmed they would be in attendance at the demonstration on Saturday alongside specially-trained gay and lesbian liaison officers.
“We respect the public’s right to protest [but] anyone who breaks the law or engages in anti-social behaviour will be dealt with accordingly,” the force said in a statement.
The result of Australia’s poll on equal marriage, which will see registered voters aged 18 and over answer the question ‘Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?’, is set to be announced on November 15.
James Corden has been slammed for supposedly using being gay as a cheap gag.
The Late Late Show host became embroiled in a controversy earlier this week when a picture of him planting a kiss on Sean Spicer appeared online.
Despite poking fun at the Trump administration during while he presented this year’s Emmys, Corden appeared to show no restraint when sharing a peck with the bumbling White House Secretary.
A number of angry social media users criticised the star for “normalising fascism”.
After sobering up from the evening’s festivities, Corden apologised for his actions, saying: “Understandably, some people have been disappointed by this photo. In truth, I’m disappointed by it as well.
“I have been reading a lot of harsh comments on Twitter today, and I hear you loud and clear, truly, I do.”
James Corden (left) kissing Any Lingering Respect Anyone Had For Him (right) goodbye pic.twitter.com/1dQLG54pau
— James Felton (@JimMFelton) September 18, 2017
However, it was too little too late for social media, who suggested that the kiss was just one in a long line of incidents that seem to show Corden using being gay as a “joke”.
One user wrote: “KISSING MEN IS NOT A JOKE,” alongside shots of the chat show host kissing a number of other male celebrities, including One Direction’s Harry Styles.
While a second added: “He’s one of those who thinks kissing a man is hilarious”.
— Tom Zohar (@TomZohar) September 18, 2017
I’ve always said James Corden was absolute trash. He’s one of those hetties who thinks kissing a man is hilarious. https://t.co/CpPVqX7SSS
— Dan (@dgreenie92) September 19, 2017
It is 2017 and this fucking shitty tired trope in gay panic humor needs to fucking die already, it makes my blood boil
— Tom Zohar (@TomZohar) September 18, 2017
Has Corden taken his brand of comedy too far? Let us know your thoughts on social media.
The Israeli government have just announced they’ll be amending the adoption law to give same-sex couples equal rights in the country.
The announcement was made on Sunday (September 17) during a Supreme Court hearing in response to a petition hoping to end discrimination in the adoption law.
Filed by the Association of Israeli Gay Fathers and the Israel Movement for Reform and Progressive Judaism against the Justice Ministry and the Labor, Social Affairs and Social Services Ministry.
Adoption by same-sex couples has been legal in the country since 2008, but has been difficult as opposite-sex couples are given priority. According to reports, only three same-sex couples have adopted in Israel out of 550 applicants.
Back in July, the court revealed that they would not end the discrimination against same-sex parents, allegedly believing that adoption by them would add “additional baggage” for adopted children.
Speaking to the Jerusalem Post, Riki Shapira Rosenberg for the Israel Religious Action Centre, said: “The court recognized the merits of the petition presented to them and decided to encourage a fundamental change in Israel’s adoption policy.”
“From now on, same-sex families, who deserve the right to adopt like any other family, will have the right.”
According to the state, the new legislation will be introduced by June 2018.